It's been a hard year for everyone, what with theaters, restaurants, and things we were used to being a part of shut down, causing us all to think, reflect, and just learn to live through every day, no matter how rough every second happened to be. It's been especially hard I think for those who may have depression/anxiety/PTSD/working through any and all kind of trauma, as we just wanted to keep what we were used to doing as a routine, but sadly life cannot always be this way. To make matters worse, anxiety and stress increases once every four years, when the presidential election hits. Granted, tensions were already high, after protests and civil unrest became more prevalent after the police-involved murders of Ahmaud Arbery, George Floyd, and Breonna Taylor, to name a few. It's been most difficult for me considering I lived in Minneapolis (where George Floyd's murder happened) for two years, so any and all friends that lived in Minneapolis where protests were the hottest stressed me out for several months as I was very worried for their safety. With the election at a close tie between candidates Joe Biden and Donald Trump, the pressure to "make your voice heard" by voting has been as intense as it always gets, flooding social media, filling the feeds of anyone who may have an instagram account, or facebook page, whether it be generated by the social media platform itself, or ads, or the implorings of famous celebrities. For someone who's trying to learn how to keep my brain in one place, it's exhausting trying to look at what I came on social media for without having all the voting ads being pushed in my face when I didn't ask for it. It's not that any of us seek approval because of who we voted for; for I know that many people are just fine with who they support when it comes to political leaders, opposing criticism be damned. But there are some of us who are just looking for equal ground when it comes to the subject of politics. Granted, it's a slippery slope as it can devolve into a heated debate rather quickly.
As many things that we have depended on for years (movies, performing arts, etc.,) have ground to a halt, things like the pandemic and the resulting quarantine we all were under (and probably still under for some places overseas), relationships between family and loved ones has become a rather more important priority for those who have had to get used to different this year. As the political race for who the next president will be picked up speed and then started up over the past couple of months, there's been division once again between friends and colleagues, family and friends. I can't speak for everyone who's been struggling with any sort of mental illness this year, but sometimes, division is something that can cause trauma, especially if it happens right away, or it's something that's been happening for a long time (i.e., biological children being ignored by parents, or parents fighting/having many discussions, which usually ends up in divorce). After going through something like that and trying to find equal ground again, all that some of us want is a semblance of normalcy in the relationships we cultivate in the present, where we try to move on and discover for ourselves what a healthy relationship is like, whether it be with a parent, sibling, a romantic relationship, you name it. Further division for those of us who want normalcy for a few seconds isn't helping our mental situation; it only makes the labyrinth of our lives more difficult to navigate as obstacles that weren't there before start to show up, possibly caused by triggers of certain traumas from years or months ago.
I'll put it bluntly: 2020 has not been a year where awareness and sensitivity of others has not flourished. Sometimes tensions rise after months in lockdown, stuck in one place, when all the human race has been used to for millennia has always been going somewhere else and not staying in one place for long. Being stuck in one place for two and a half months makes things harder for people struggling with mental illness to process, especially if they want to make themselves understood, and if that happens, it makes it harder to ask for help. It's tragic that after people went into quarantine when covid began in march, depression rates began to rise, as isolation, when we wanted company and people around us, was given as a mandate for everyone to be under. Some of us have managed to find ways to process (journal writing, therapy/counseling, listening to music, just going outside, mindfulness walks, etc.). Sometimes we may have many ways to process at our fingertips, but sometimes it may not be exactly what we need because a certain resource may be limited or shut down because of current circumstances.
When voting, there isn't hope for approval just because of who you pick. It's the disapproval/disagreements/heated discussions that spring because of who you voted for that's especially hard on someone who may be depressed, working through a trauma, or who has PTSD. Relationships that they could count on before get shaken up with reactionary words like "disappointed/shocked" and even "why would you vote for them?" which is unhelpful for someone who's just trying to make their own decisions, and when coming up against judgement on the decisions that they make, it's confusing and frustrating, and it makes them wonder if they can do anything right, and makes them question if they're allowed to have their own decision that won't spark disappointment or other reactions like shock at who a person voted for. Take time to listen now, questions about "why" come later. Listening to each other so that agreements and/or relationship work can be done is so important, especially in times like these. If we're going to get through the rest of this year, listening and taking the time out to understand and be understood is imperative so that we're all closer and united, despite differences in political leanings and the like.
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